Hi and welcome to the vernacular life podcast, where we talk about anything and everything that goes on in our 1906 vernacular farmhouse. I’m your host, Paige, as usual. And I keep making this comment about 1905 or 1906 farmhouse. But my wonderful virtual assistant actually wrote something the other day where she said, turn of the century farmhouse. And I thought, oh, that’s much better because I don’t actually know when this was built. So I think we’re going to say turn of the century farmhouse from now on. So anyway, we’re going to have a little bit of a fun episode today with just some Q and A, I put out a call on Instagram for some questions, because my internet is actually down right now and I have nothing better to do. So I’m like, Hey Instagram, give me some questions and then we’ll answer them in a podcast.
So without further ado, here we go. Let’s start off with what farm animal do you want to get next? So we currently have cows, pigs, and chickens. Of all of them I highly recommend chickens and cows. Pigs, I want to love them, but I just don’t, they’re not my favorite animal, but next actually I think I want another cow. So there are different breeds of cows. Some are for meat, some are dual purpose, some are for dairy. And what I want next is actually a Jersey cow, which is a specific kind of dairy cow. I don’t know why I want one. I would just like more cows. Our one cow that I thought was going to calve in August never did. I don’t think she has a calf. So we’re looking at November before possibly getting any kind of calf with milk. And the one who’s pregnant is a little bit sassy.
So I’m like maybe we could just get a slightly nicer cow for milk. So that’s definitely on the next is some kind of Jersey cow or another cow, because they’re really fun. But other than cows, I would love a donkey because they’re hilarious. And then maybe sheep or goats. I’m not really sure. I know they’re escape artist. So I’d have to put some things together to make sure nobody escapes or anything, but generally expanding the menagerie is always nice.
Along that note. Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the livestock you currently take care of? So at this point we have it down to a pretty simple routine. It takes about 10 to 15 minutes in the morning and the evening. That is greatly improved by the cows being watered from a gutter off of one of the buildings. When that runs dry, our time increases a little bit, because we have to water the cows twice a day, but overwhelmed is not really it because I was much more scared of livestock before I had them than when I actually had them. Now it’s like, oh, you have 10 chickens. What’s 30 chickens. It’s the same amount of energy. So not really.
Someone else asked what is the time commitment for the farm? Is it as magical as it sounds? I think for it being magical, you have to kind of romanticize your own life with it because I promise there’s nothing fun about watering, very smelly pigs when it’s 95 degrees out, but some days when it’s really nice and it’s like 75 and it’s breezy and you can sit it in the shade and you watch the chickens, that is pretty darn magical. But I think it sounds a lot more magical to have animals than it actually is unless you consciously work at maintaining that magic after you have animals, if that makes sense.
What has been your favorite paint colors so far? So obviously there are a lot of paint colors in this house and there’s a very bold paint colors. I tend to like whatever room we finish best, but I really love the dining room. I love the teal color. I love that room. I love the way it feels. I love the way it looks. I think it’s just utterly spectacular in all ways and shapes and forms. So I think of the paint colors in this house, that beautiful rich teal, which was half Empress teal, and half bucolic green is just the perfect combination of everything that I love.
Along those lines. Have you ever picked a paint color and said, this was a terrible mistake? I did. And we talked about this a little bit in the paint colors episode where I picked two greens for the pantry that were just horribly wrong. They would’ve been fine, but they were too yellow, especially when paired next to the yellow kitchen. I mean one thing I have found is that with bolder colors, it’s generally harder to screw them up than with neutrals because with bold colors, if it’s a little bit too green or a little bit too blue or a little bit too red, it tends not to look as bad as a neutral, that’s pulling a really bad undertone.
So that’s one of the reasons I like bold color so much is because I just feel like they’re harder to screw up. You’re making a statement and everybody knows you’re making a statement. So if you make a statement a little bit more in one direction than the other, who cares?
Is your color palette for the upstairs complimentary to your main level? Or does it contrast a bit? I don’t really know how to answer this question in terms of a color palette, because I don’t think in terms of this is my house’s color palette. I think in terms of what color do I want this room to be? The main difference upstairs is that we are going to be doing a combination of bead board, wainscoting and very nice William Morris wallpaper. So the upstairs isn’t really going to have a color palette the same way that down here does, because there’s going to be so much wallpaper.
The colors are of the air of this house. So it is very similarly rich and kind of opulent and dramatic. So I guess by that token, it’s kind of the same sort of colors, but they’re wallpaper as opposed to paint.
If you had to pick one item of furniture in your house that’s your favorite, what would it be? Wow. I have a lot of furniture. I could probably pick one favorite per room, but I don’t know if I could pick one favorite. Hmm. I’m a very, very big fan of my 1835 couch in the dining room. I think that’s quite glorious. I really like the work table that Brandon just built for me. I think that’s a really awesome piece. I don’t really know because most of the furniture I have in this house at this point is something that I would fling my body across at an antique fair if I found it for the price I paid.
I don’t really have too much anymore that I’m like, eh, I could take or leave that. So what a terrible answer. No, I don’t have a favorite because I love it all. And I don’t want to make any of the other furniture feel bad by saying this one’s my favorite or that one’s my favorite.
Oh, the big question. Are you having kids? So I think pretty much everyone gets this question when they’re of that certain age in the world and is definitely asked a little bit more of being on the internet and putting yourself out there more. You might have noticed over the last three months or so that we’ve kind of been stalled. There haven’t really been YouTube videos. There haven’t really been renovations. There haven’t really been any housework. We’ve kind of just been doing the podcast. And that is because I have been ridiculously tired, like shockingly abnormally over the moon type tired, which you may or may not know is also a very common symptom of the first trimester. So yes. Are we having kids? Funnily enough, I am in fact, a little bit knocked up.
I mentioned this in the YouTube video last week. So you can go watch that. I just redid this absolutely adorable little tiny person sized Hoosier that I found at the antique fair. So you can watch that in the video. I’ll leave a link in the show notes. This kind of brings up an interesting conundrum because if you’ve been around here for a while, you’ve been following along for a while. You know that I’m a planner and I been on social media over four years, but four years related to this house and two of those have been full-time. So I have had a long time to think and prepare about exactly what I was going to say in this moment when it came and social media, if anyone is out there thinking about doing social media as a job, it is a good job.
I can’t deny that. The freedom, the flexibility, the creativity, the people you get to meet, it’s a wonderful opportunity. It’s also a job, which means that there are certain drawbacks that you have to deal with. And one of those is that when you make your living sharing your life, it becomes very hard to figure out where the lines are. And typically you don’t know where your personal line is until you cross it and you share something and then you say, oh, I actually don’t think I like sharing that. I don’t think I’m comfortable with that. So I have had a lot of time to think about how I was going to handle this. And this is kind of where I’ve landed. I’m an adult. I’m 29 years old. Brandon is an adult. We can both understand and fully consent to the idea of being on social media. We can consent to being in a video.
We can consent to, this is what our online presence looks like. For me personally, I just don’t feel it’s my place to create an online persona for someone before they can meaningfully consent to it, which basically means that baby vernacular is not going to be a part of this channel and this podcast and generally a part of my social media business. Now I don’t really care what other people do. I’m not in the habit of telling people what to do or trying to control people about what they do. Everybody has to make their own decision for their own family. So this is just the decision that feels the best after many, many years of thinking about it and pondering on it. So what does this mean for farmhouse vernacular? Well, it means that pregnancy updates, birth stories, nursery tours, name histories, that’s just not stuff that’s going to be a part of this channel that started as a renovation channel, as an old stuff channel. And that’s what I would like to continue it as.
This is why I have started branching out my content, branching out with the podcast, and ramping up the blog. And I’m looking into Pinterest because I want to continue sharing with you. I want to continue hanging out with you and talking about paint colors and fabulous antiques, but I have to figure out a way to do that and maintain this level of privacy that I’m interested in maintaining going forward in this next part of life. So a couple people have guessed it. That’s kind of why I’ve been dead for the last three or four months, is that the fatigue hit me really, really hard. And I had about one hour of vertical energy a day, and that was it. So yes, this is kind of where we’re at now and it’s going to be an adventure. I hope you will stick around for all of the other stuff that we have, the podcasts, and occasional YouTube videos as I can get to them. And I don’t really know how to close that out well and make it sound good. So yeah, there’s the big news. I’m pregnant.
So this kind of leads into the next question, which is what is the timeframe for finishing the house? Well, we had planned to try to finish the interior before any baby vernacular showed up, but some rooms just went a little bit slower and then we had a lot of family health issues. And then I got knocked out for three months with fatigue. So we’ve just been going a little bit slower than usual. So I honestly don’t know what our timeframe is anymore. Fortunately, after we finished this bathroom and bedroom and vestibule situation, the last two rooms are incredibly simple.
They are just bedrooms. They don’t need any plumbing. They have one electrical circuit each. The most complicated thing in them is going to be putting in windows. So I’m hopeful that we’ll be able to kind of pick away at those slowly. But again, I don’t know if I’m going to show all of it. I might show parts of it. I might show sections of the finished wallpaper or anything, but I definitely feel weird about being like, hi kid, welcome to the world. And 40,000 people know what your room looks like. I, oh, I think this is a question. What were you like as a kid and teenager? Yeah, that was a question. So I don’t know if I was a private person, but I definitely liked my space and my room was my sanctuary and I would spend hours upon hours making little construction paper worlds for my ponies and rearranging my room to fit whatever new hobby I was working on.
My room was like my sanctuary. And that may not be the case for the future kid, but I don’t want to take that choice away from them. Was it frightening to leave you your nine to five job? So again, like I said, two years ago, I left my corporate job as an engineer to pursue an online job, career, following, something like that, of social media content creation. And I wouldn’t say that fear was really something that, I think it hit me for a day that I was really scared and I was like, oh shoot, I actually did this. But then the freedom and the benefit of it just absolutely outweighed all of that. So I worked for five years as an engineer on the production floor and somebody else asked the question, would I ever go back? Of course you can’t ever say whether you would or wouldn’t do anything.
If I have my choice, I won’t do engineering again. Not because I didn’t like it, but because I don’t like working for people, it’s not in my personality. I like more freedom than that. I like the ability to decide what my days look like. I like the ability to decide what I want to work on. If I find it interesting or if I don’t, it would have to be a very special circumstance for me to strictly go back to a 40 hour a week engineering job. But I don’t think I would say that I was frightened. I was excited and it was hard work, but it has afforded me many, many opportunities, the opportunity to be in a good place, to stay home and work and make a decent living. That has all been wonderful. But I will say it’s not a picnic.
You learn a lot about people and about yourself and about what you do and don’t like when you put your entire life out there for people to see and to comment on. Fear wasn’t a thing that I really felt because I was just so excited by the freedom. What has been your favorite room to remodel so far? It’s hard to say which one’s my favorite because there’s kind of the recency bias of whichever one we finished most recently is like, oh, that’s new, that’s shiny. That’s exciting. I’m sitting in the master bedroom here and this room we finished two or three years ago and it’s beautiful. I love it. I love the rich blue walls. I love all of the trim. I love the furniture. I love the layout. It’s stunning. I’m kind of used to it now. So I don’t remember exactly how much I loved it the first time I saw it.
So accounting for recency bias, I love every room for a different reason. I love the kitchen. I love how it looks fairly historic. I love how it’s super practical and super efficient, but I love how it’s unfitted so I can move things around if I want to. I love the dining room because it just feels like a window into my brain. I love that it’s opulent and kind of like a little Faberge egg. I love the rich colors. I love that I can put exceedingly fancy things in there and it just accepts it and loves it. I love my hallway because I have all of these beautiful flower paintings in there and these gorgeous mirrors and interesting things to look at and it’s kind of like contained chaos in a way that makes me really, really happy.
I love how rich and warm the study is because it’s super cozy. And I just recently got recliner at the thrift store that’s so pretty and so comfortable and I love sitting in there and I love listening to the rain on the roof, outside that window. So it’s really hard to say which room is my favorite because the whole house feels so good and every room has a different mood. So if I want to feel a certain way, I can go into that room and feel that way. I don’t have a favorite. I really don’t. I think they’re all wonderful. And I think it’s a wonderful experience to walk from room to room to room and see each personality in each room and to look at all of the beautiful things that I’ve collected, because I’m at the point now where I like more in my house than I dislike in terms of individual pieces.
I’ve collected enough things that I think are really pretty and really interesting to look at that as I walk through the spaces, I just love looking at all this stuff like I’m sitting here and there, every single thing in this bedroom, I would buy again in a heartbeat if I found it at an antique fair, because I just think it’s so pretty.
I’m just full of non-answers today, aren’t I? You’ve mentioned a ghost at your house, but I don’t think you’ve shared stories. I’ve never shared stories about our friends around here, but we’re going to have a Halloween episode coming up and we have some sad, tragic past in this house. And we have some spooky friends, so we’ll talk about them in the Halloween episode. What’s your favorite holiday movie? I wasn’t going to answer this because I was like, I’m not a holiday movie person. And then I remembered this one movie and I’m going to have to sit here and think of what the name is.
Christmas Kiss, Ghost of Christmas. Ugh, I don’t remember what it was called. It’s a hallmark movie. It’s a Christmas movie and it’s about this reporter or a lawyer or something. And she goes and stays in this big old house that’s haunted and she ends up finding that the ghost that haunts it is, of course, this dashingly good looking guy who I think died in the thirties. And of course they end up falling in love and then there’s Christmas magic and he is able to stop being a ghost and come back to life and they live happily ever after. Okay. I cannot remember the name of this movie right now, but I will find it and I will put it in the show notes because it is really the only cheesy hallmark Christmas movie that I absolutely love. And I watch it like two to three times a year since I discovered it.
And it’s so much fun. It’s the same part of my brain that binge reads scandalous romance novels, the exact same part of my brain. It just gets in there and it’s like a nice little massage for my brain. It’s like, this is ridiculous. I’m aware, but I’m so happy about it.
If you could take a trip anywhere in the world, where would you want to go? This is a very good question. And the answer is pretty much without a doubt, Scotland. I am Scottish by heritage, Scottish and Irish primarily, and then there’s a little bit of German thrown in there too. And we actually had a trip scheduled and planned for Scotland. We’d bought the tickets. We were planning it out. We were going to spend the money. It was going to be a great trip. And then about two months before we were supposed to go, we found this house.
And so we ended up canceling the tickets. We got almost everything refunded because instead of going to Scotland, we found our dream farmhouse, but history and ruins have always pulled at my heart in a very visceral way. I went to Slovakia once for a job. We were only there for a couple days and we ended up seeing Elizabeth Báthory, I think is her name. We ended up seeing the ruins of her castle and she was supposedly one of the most prolific serial killers of all time, because she would, unalive people and then use their blood to whatever, she was a bad chick, but we saw her castle ruins there and we saw another castle. And I just walk through the ruins and I look at the holes in the walls, where there were beams that held up floors.
And I look at the staircases and I look at the windows. It makes my heart ache in a way that I could almost cry. I look at it and I just think this is incredible. And I think about the people who walked up and down those halls and what stress they had her life and what drama they had. And I find that so enchanting and transporting. So Scotland in particular, because there is a castle there that is basically my namesake, my middle name, and it’s a ruin. And I wanted to go to that castle ruin and just see it because that’s where our ancestors came over in the 1700s. That was their castle. That’s what they came from. So I want to go to Scotland at some point, just to see the ruins, just to see the beautiful countryside, to see the hills and to see that castle in particular. And Brandon and I actually learned, we had a terrible honeymoon.
So if anyone’s out there and you have an absolutely awful honeymoon, it’s fine. You can still turn out blissfully happy. We just did a very poor job at planning it, and it was way too long. And the first indication that this was probably not a good idea was we scheduled our flight out for 6:00 AM the morning after our evening wedding, terrible idea, terrible idea. And then we scheduled our return flight home for the day before we had to go back to work, horrible idea. But on that honeymoon, we finally figured out that the way that we like to travel is basically no plan at all. 5% of a plan, and then just roaming the countryside and stopping where we want to stop. Is this the cheapest way to do it? No. But we finally started having a good time when we completely abandoned all of the plans that we had and just started wandering around on an adventure together.
So if we were to do a trip like that, we would probably do something similar where we go. We make no plans. We wander around the countryside and we have a great time.
What parts of your future home renovations are you most looking forward to? And most dreading. Dreading, I’m not really looking forward to the roof. It needs a new roof, Brandon and I have not decided yet if we’re doing it, or if we’re hiring it out, I really don’t want to do it. I’ve done a roof before and it was a very simple roof and it about killed us. Plus I want a metal roof. I just know that that’s going to be a headache because it’s an old house and it’s always a headache, but in general, I’m both dreading and really excited to do the exterior. So the exterior of this house was originally wooden siding.
And I’m all about preserving as much history as I can. The problem is that this house shifted quite a lot. It has a lot of water damage and the siding is not the nice thick plank siding of some houses. It’s very thin. It’s cedar or poplar. And it just splinters when you try to take it off. So we would have to pull down all of the wooden signing anyway, in order to properly waterproof it and fix a lot of stuff. So we decided that when we put it back, we’re not going to put back wood. We’re going to rebuild as much as we possibly can out of engineered materials, dimensionally stable materials, just purely because I don’t want to repaint every two to four years. So I’m very excited for the exterior of the house, because it’s going to be a really rich blue.
I’m probably going to pull in some fun colors on the doors. We’ll finally get our chance to rebuild the porches and remake the gingerbread that’s on them and make them really pretty. And then we have an idea for a side porch thing that’s going to be really nice. So I’m very excited to do the exterior. I’m just aware of how big of a project that is and how much effort it’s going to be and how much of a headache it’s going to be to deal with everything that’s out of square and all the painting. And it’s going to be so pretty because the inside of the house looks so much nicer than the outside right now, but it’s going to be a massive, massive headache.
Oh, that’s a big, heavy question. When did you really come into your own and embrace yourself unapologetically? I don’t know that I have. This is a really hard question because I feel like everybody has their own stuff. And it’s hard when you see someone who’s farther along a particular avenue of self growth than you are. And you think that they’re just winning on all levels. It’s really hard to be yourself on the internet. It’s not too bad when you’re small. And when you have… I didn’t really have trouble with it until I got to maybe 15,000 followers on Instagram. Before then I was totally fine to just be my unfiltered self and be as critical as I wanted to be and be as strong-willed and strong-opinioned as I wanted to be. But at some point you have people who just don’t like that for whatever reason, and they’re fine, they don’t have to like you, but it definitely takes more guts to be yourself online the more people you have watching.
But even in your real life, if you have people who know you really well, but have never seen your full unapologetic self, it’s really hard to do that. So I still struggle with fully voicing my mind about things because I just am not willing to deal with the conflict that’s going to come from it. What I have found helps though, is that I think about if someone is pushing back against me and someone’s trying to get me to do something and trying to get me to change, I try to figure out why they’re doing it and what they actually want. So it’s like, do you actually want me to change? Do you actually want a conversation or do you just want control over my actions? Or do you just want me to go away and shut up and never be heard from again?
And if I can figure out what their end goal is, and I can decide that their end goal is not something I’m willing to do, then it’s a lot easier to just say, well, sorry, I’m going to go ahead and do what I want.
I’m humbled by this question, very humbled by it, because I feel like I’m fumbling around not knowing what I’m doing most of the time on the internet, especially recently when I’ve had no energy to strategize and grow my business, but for those people who are here, I’m very grateful for you and very happy that you’re here hanging out. Tips for keeping your cool when house projects get tough and miserable. Similarly, there was one, yeah, closest to divorce during renovation. So Brandon and I have been together seven years and I can confidently say, we’ve never been, quote unquote, close to divorce.
Things could change in the future, but he’s my favorite person. And I’m his favorite person. So I don’t think any of our fights have ever lasted longer than a few hours. And that’s not to say we haven’t had some massive fights. We have, we just tend to, not get over it quickly, but we like each other so much that we dislike fighting more than we want to keep fighting, if that makes sense. But some ways if the renovation is really heating up and you really can’t come to an agreement and you’re really fighting with your spouse, we have learned a couple ways to kind of bring the tension down. One of them is to figure out what sets each of you off. For example, hanging crown molding for whatever reason, Brandon just has a very short temper while he’s doing it. So I know if we’re hanging crown molding, that day I need to be particularly tolerant.
I need to let things slide. I need to be particularly silly and crack jokes and make sure he has snacks and make sure he has water because for whatever reason, that’s just something that annoys him. So it’s my job to keep the peace those days. On the flip side, I hate, hate setting nails in trim. I hate it. It turns me into a rage monster in 0.2 seconds. So I don’t set the nails in trim. He puts the trim up, he sets all the nails and then I patch and I sand and I prime and I paint. So kind of learning what sets each of you off and then working to either take that task off of your partner or be a good support system for your partner while they’re doing that, that has really, really helped us. Something else is just physically touching each other.
We get really angry when we have to drywall ceilings for various reasons, but it’s something that very quickly sends both of us into a rage. So if we are hanging drywall ceilings and getting really mad at each other, we’ll put the drywall and you sit there and you just hold hands and you probably don’t want to hold hands, because you’re mad at your other person, but it’s hard to stay really lividly mad at someone when you’re holding hands or even hugging or just laying down and cuddling or sitting next to each other. Just reminding yourself that this is your person and a relationship is not worth a drywall ceiling. And I think the last, well, two more, one is that we have a phrase and this is a phrase that we say that we think is funny. That is basically a tension breaker.
And it says I’m not quite done being mad, but I’m kind of done fighting. So I’m going to say this phrase to let you know that I’m not entirely over it yet, but I would like to start making up. In our case, we have a couple, we have, I fight you, I kick your butt. But the slightly profane version of that, generally just being loud and obnoxious and escalating the fight in an overly dramatic comical way. And that usually just signals okay, I’m getting really mad, but I really don’t want to be mad. So let’s laugh about this. Let’s have a little bit of fun and then let’s calm down and get back to being us. And that’s really the bottom line with these renovations that they’re hard. They’re time consuming. They’re exhausting, they’re hot, they’re expensive. They’re filthy. And at the end of the day, nothing that’s going on in the house is worth your relationship. Nothing, no ceiling, no trim, no paint color, no rug, nothing is more important than making sure your relationship is stable.
So sometimes you just have to back off. Sometimes you just have to say, I don’t care. I love you more than I care about this particular idea. So do it your way. And that’s really our guiding principle is that we are together first before any renovation issue. Well, this is a nice one to end on. If you could hang out with any one person for a day from the past or present, who would it be? Brandon. It’s always Brandon. Anybody else in the world or Brandon, the choice is always Brandon. So I think that’s a good, happy note to leave it on. Check the YouTube video again to see the cute little hutch I was talking about that I repainted and it’s a thrift hall. So there’s a lot of fun finds that I haven’t shown in a while. So that will be in the show notes. Thank you so much for listening. I am so glad you are here. And I can’t wait to hang out with you next time. So I’ll see you then. Bye.